"I've learned that sometimes, when I'm angry I have the right to be angry"
Being an avid Paulo Coelho reader, I wanted to start this category (Monday Musings of Mighty Men) with his anecdote about anger since at the moment that is what poisons my brain and what envelops my heart.
Sometimes , when circumstance gets a little intense with people who usually put blames on us, labels us, and underestimates our capacities to do better, we reach to our peak and even worse, to our boiling point.
Anger, a stage of our aggression at its peak , lets our tongues work faster than our brains. This is the moment we made wrong decisions, false moves and even stab people with our words sharper than knives. And when these happen they blame us even the more for having been unable to keep our silence , remain still, and to not fight them back.
But at some point , were we even asked what had caused us to reach our peak? A water in a pot cannot reach its boiling point unless there is no fire building at the very bottom of such.
We are just humans . As much as we are prone to commit mistakes we re at the same time free to feel all those negative emotions around us which all came out of Pandora's Box. Our challenge there then is to always put our brains at its usual position , above our hearts , when we are at these emotions so as we wont be regretting the things we might end up doing
So here is an excerpt of one among the many books I collected by the great Paulo Coelho. I encourage you to over analyze this:Sometimes , when circumstance gets a little intense with people who usually put blames on us, labels us, and underestimates our capacities to do better, we reach to our peak and even worse, to our boiling point.
Anger, a stage of our aggression at its peak , lets our tongues work faster than our brains. This is the moment we made wrong decisions, false moves and even stab people with our words sharper than knives. And when these happen they blame us even the more for having been unable to keep our silence , remain still, and to not fight them back.
But at some point , were we even asked what had caused us to reach our peak? A water in a pot cannot reach its boiling point unless there is no fire building at the very bottom of such.
We are just humans . As much as we are prone to commit mistakes we re at the same time free to feel all those negative emotions around us which all came out of Pandora's Box. Our challenge there then is to always put our brains at its usual position , above our hearts , when we are at these emotions so as we wont be regretting the things we might end up doing
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Why do we shout in anger?
A master asked his disciples: "Why do we shout in anger? Why do people shout at each other when they are upset?"
The disciples thought for a while, and one of them said, "Because we lose our calm, we shout for that."
"But, why to shout when the other person is just next to you? Isn't it possible to speak to him or her with a soft voice ? Why do you shout at a person when you're angry?" The disciples gave him some other answers but none satisfied the master.
Finally he explained:
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Then the master asked
"What happens when two people fall in love? They don't shout at each other but talk softly, why? Because their hearts are very close. The distance between them is very small."
And then he concluded:
"When they love each other even more, what happens? They do not speak, only whisper and they even get closer to each other in their love."
"Finally they even need not whisper, they only look at each other and that's all. That is how close two people are when they love each other."
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