Musings of Mighty Men : Mr. Amari Soul

"You have to be willing to let go of everything

 to be able to hold each other forever." - Mr. Amari Soul 

Photo from Mr. Amari Soul

Because I ain't over yet with this very riveting masterpiece called the Reflections of Man , hence I am making my second Monday Musings of Mighty Men post an extension of my previous review of Mr. Soul's book. Albeit I wont be talking about how well-written the book is in here , because I absolutely did that in the said review , I still assure you the enjoyment you get reading these lines. 

But just a little segue , if you are quite curious why his photo does not show his face, don't worry we're on the same boat. Actually , we are plenty on the same boat! hahahah! Don't dare ask me why for I, too , cant give you any logical reason why this very brilliant writer just won't show his face. Probably in the near future. Soon.  ;)

Other than the poem I included at the very bottom of my review for this book, (click here) I also have the following as my personal favorites. They all are just so overwhelming for the heart. It's as if reading these brought to a reverie of me having a face-to-face convo with Mr. Soul. Oohhhhh! How I love that to happen! Another wishful thingking it is.  hahahah ! Here they are by the way . Please do take time to nourish every sing meaning of each thought below guys for they will surely not just comfort your souls, and stimulate your brains but they will also pamper and fatten your hearts.  Enjoy! :)

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She Needs A Man Who Is Not Afraid

She needs a man who is not afraid to give himself

completely to her without fear of consequence

and without pause.

A man not afraid to allow himself to become

emotionally vulnerable in order to make that

deep connection she so needs.

A love connection so deep that it sits at the very

footsteps of her soul.

Now, I'm not talking about ordinary love,

I'm talking about the next level type of love;

That type of love that only fairytale books speak of.

That's what she wants. . .  that's what she needs.

More Than Just Her Man

 She needs you to be more than just her man.

She needs you to be her best friend and her confidant:

For you to be her voice of reason, when she needs advice.

and her soundboard when she needs vent.

At the end of the day, she needs you to be the one person

who , no matter terrible the storm,

she can always count on to protect her from the rain.

She needs all of this to be consistent,

something she can count on to never change.

That's what she wants . . . that's what she needs.

Take Her Breath Away

That's what she wants . . . that's what she needs.

You see , she needs a man that can take her breath away

and make it hard for her to breathe.

She needs a man that makes her feel so weak

that she drops down to her knees;

but not for the reason you think.

 You see, even the wrong man can catch her eye , but only

the right man can capture her imagination

and stimulate her mind.

So when she drops down to her knees, it's to thank God 

for his hand,

in putting her in the right place , at the right time ,

to meet the right man.

That's all she ever wanted . . . that's all she ever needed.

What Are Her Dreams

What are her dreams and ambitions?

Have you asked her?

If not , why?

That's a big part of being her man.

How can you support what you don't know?

What Does Love Mean To You

Love is probably one of the most powerful and misused word in the vocabulary . If you ask 100 different people what love means to them, you would probably get 100 different answers. Here's my take: love is the indescribable someone makes you feel inside. It's the feeling that grips you at the very core of your soul; one that makes you feel like nothing else. For a woman , it's comforting , reassuring and provide her with a sense of peace and security. For a man , it strengthens our resolve, gives us a sense of purpose , and the confidence to believe we can accomplish anything. 

She Still Believes

If she decides to give you a second chance, 

it's not usually because you deserve it; but rather because

she still believes in you and the idea that love , 

if given the chance , will somehow prevail in the end. 

Grandparents Style of Love

Think about it for a second . . . they didn't have any

email , cell phones , text messages , Twitter m Facebook , or

Instagram and they made it work. Not because it was 

easier , but because ,  back then , they had to spend

quality time with each other because there was no 

other way to make it work. Maybe that's a lesson from 

the past that we can all learn from.

Take time to spend time  . . . it works.

Walk With Her

Take a walk with her.
Find an intimate place where the ambiance
is so beautiful that it can never be erased from her
mind , body , or her soul ;
Take a walk with her and just talk.
The power of you walking and holding her hand,
next to a restless ocean as it crashes down 
and erases the footsteps in the sand is unforgettable;
Just walk with her. 



The Unwritten Love

To my love,
You are the most beautiful being
that I have ever seen in my entire life.
And no dream will ever compare
to the reality that we share
or the passion in this moonlit night.
Now as for you, follow your dreams
when you see your vision is clear,
and worry not about companionship for I will always 
be near. I am your friend , indeed ,one whom you  can
depend on when in need ; I'll be your breath when you
cannot breathe . . . I'll be all you'll ever need.
Through the good times and the bad,
through the happy times and the sad ,
though I'll sometimes make you mad . . .I'll be the best
friend you'eve ever had.

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It is already a given fact that we women are , most of the time, attention seekers especially when it comes to our men who give us so much affection. Our moods swing like a pendulum with so much tension. And trust me ,it is on those times that we wanted to have our men, other halves, lifetime partners, or however you call it to stick to us no matter how sour ourselves are at a given instance. It is during those times that we felt we are loved too much by them especially if they have understood us in the moment our personalities become constipated. And it is those times that we wanted to be tamed when the beasts and the monsters within us start to reveal their true unlovable forms. 

In the not so bright side, it is also during those time that we question and try to measure their love towards us when, and only when, they tend not fathom us the way we expected them to be, when they try to push us away instead of embracing the bitterness that we have, and when they try to enrage us the more instead of taming the dragons that we've become. And that's where broken relationships get in. 

So as to salvage the relationship, actions have to be taken. And what's the best key to this trouble??? UNDERSTANDING. Both must understand each other because as what they say "It takes two to tango."

The aforementioned lines of Mr. Soul are just a few of his beautiful reminders how we, women ,should be understood the more by our men. He gives not only the men, but also us the women, the idea as to how to keep a relationship lasting. And because of these, my great admiration of Mr. Soul is unending and I look forward to more of his books to come. :)

Thank you for spending a fraction of your time with me!!! Until then! :)
- Cee Brensan

Musings of Mighty Men : Paulo Coelho

"I've learned that sometimes, when I'm angry I have the right to be angry"

- Paulo Coelho

Being an avid Paulo Coelho reader, I wanted to start this category (Monday Musings of Mighty Men) with his anecdote about anger since at the moment that is what poisons my brain and what envelops my heart.

Sometimes ,  when circumstance gets a little intense with people who usually put blames on us, labels us, and underestimates our capacities to do better, we reach to our peak and even worse, to our boiling point.

Anger, a stage of our aggression at its peak , lets our tongues work faster than our brains. This is the moment we made wrong decisions, false moves and even stab people with our words sharper than knives. And when these happen they blame us even the more for having been unable to keep our silence , remain still, and to not fight them back.

But at some point , were we even asked what had caused us to reach our peak?  A water in a pot cannot reach its boiling point unless there is no fire building at the very bottom of such.

We are just humans . As much as we are prone to commit mistakes we re at the same time free to feel all those negative emotions around us which all came out of Pandora's Box.  Our challenge there then is to always put our brains at its usual position , above our hearts , when we are at these emotions so as we wont be regretting the things we might end up doing

So here is an excerpt of one among the many books  I collected by the great Paulo Coelho. I encourage you to over analyze this:

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Why do we shout in anger?

A master  asked his disciples: "Why do we shout in anger? Why do people shout at each other when they are upset?"

The disciples thought for a while, and one of them said, "Because we lose our calm, we shout for that."

"But, why to shout when the other person is just next to you? Isn't it possible to speak to him or her  with a soft voice ? Why  do you shout at a person when you're angry?" The disciples gave him some other answers but none satisfied the master.

Finally he explained:

Photo from Clipart-Vector

"When two people are angry at each other, their hearts distance a lot. To cover that distance they must shout to be able to hear each other. The angrier they are, the stronger they have to shout to hear each other through that great distance. 

Then the master asked
"What happens when two people fall in love? They don't shout at each other but talk softly, why? Because their hearts are very close. The distance between them is very small."

And then he concluded:
"When they love each other even more, what happens? They do not speak, only whisper and they even get closer to each other in their love."

"Finally they even need not whisper, they only look at each other and that's all. That is how close two people are when they love each other."

            

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