Coping With An "EX" Factor

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“Two words. Three vowels. Four consonants. Seven letters. It can either cut you open to the core  and leave you in ungodly pain or it  can free your soul and lift a tremendous weight off your shoulders. The phrase is:  It's over.”

― Maggi Richard


The most beautiful of all emotions that exist is love, but it is the most complicated one, too. Love is associated with a lot of myths, realities and complexities.So what happens now if you will meet one of its complexities like breaking up?

Breakups and separation are not so easy to handle. They bear a great emotional impact on a person's mind and life in general. It is hard to detach yourself from the feelings associated with a relationship that is no longer functional. But other than these breakups and separations, one among those painful feelings a lover will encounter is seeing his/her partner moving on.

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A relationship ending is bad enough, especially when it did not end on your terms. The situation is harder when your ex has moved on with his/her life perhaps even with another person.This happens to everyone. It may bring various of instances which might ruin one's life (e.g depression, withdrawal to society, and worst of all, SUICIDAL). But, hey! Life is beautiful after all. We should learn to value it to its fullest. So I've come up with some tips that will help you over cope with an "ex" moving on.



Keep Your Composure

If you happen to come across your ex and  he acknowledged you, be polite and cordial. I assure you it'll be such a nice feeling. Crying or having an angry outburst will usually only make the ex feel as if he's winning some kind of contest. If the ex still has feelings for you, he'll wonder how you manage to be so composed. If he doesn't, he'll get annoyed at your composure.


Realize you have no control over your ex's actions

You are usually completely powerless in this situation, especially if you were broken up with. The quicker you can come to terms with the fact that you aren't in control, the quicker you can move on. After moving on, you'll eventually find a situation where you do have some control (a new love), and you can be happy again.



Do Not Blame Yourself

It is pointless to sit around dwelling on what you think were bad decisions on your part in the relationship. In fact, it usually isn't completely anyone's fault. When the relationship was good, it was because of both of you. Now that it's bad and over, you have to remember that you were only half of the relationship. It is also good to realize that if your ex broke up with you, he wasn't giving your feelings much thought, which isn't a good relationship to be in at all.



Keep Yourself Busy

Do all the things that interest you a lot. Spend time to those.

You can even hang out with friends, catch a movie or do anything else that will help you to not dwell on your ex. Sitting around all day worrying about what your ex is doing is not going to make you any happier. It may be hard to have fun with friends at first, but you'll eventually get back into your old groove.




Time Heals All Wounds

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This is probably another thing people don't like to hear when they're heartbroken. Just think back to all the other times you've been heartbroken, and how many times you eventually got over it. Most likely, the same will happen and it will not hurt as much in a few months (if that). You'll soon adapt to your new life, and the situation will not seem so dreary after all.

If you've done the steps and yet you are not yet over him/her, just remember this: "You sure HAD a life before him/her and you"ll surely HAVE one after him/her." ^^