Random Inklings

Mess Your Life's Intricate Pattern

“Happiness is not something ready made. It comes from your own actions.”
― Dalai Lama XIV

The month of September had had me running of lots and lots. . . and lots of errands (of which had left me unable to update my blog site,too.) Such month had worn me out so much because tons of works were everywhere. There were the mountainous papers to be checked and the nauseous numbers to be recorded ,  PLUS the most stressing part were the practices and the preparations for the school's cheerdance competition. Staying so late in school  then became a  temporary system for me. Notwithstanding all these complains for my friend, September, I have to say this pal (September) had also brought me to feelings, places, and people of which were once so alien to me. In short, I had been brought to Cloud 9,of which I believe is so heavenly , in just  less than a month despite of its exhaustive tasks at hand. ^^ 

And because I had left my site unattended for more than a couple of weeks, I out of a sudden feel the intense urge to get back on the show. To start with, I'd like you to read an essay  from an author who happened to be a personal favorite since college because of the way he catches me by surprise by his writing experties, just as  E.L.James, Dan Brown, Nicholas Sparks, and Jude Deveraux had captured me,  IN WHICH, I believe could sum up everything I had been in such a short span of time. Hence, I'd like you to read beyond the lines and to over analyze this:

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CLOSING CYCLES

by Paulo Coelho

One always has to know when a stage comes to an end. If we insist on staying longer than the necessary time, we lose the happiness and the meaning of the other stages we have to go through.

Closing cycles, shutting doors, ending chapters whatever name we give it, what matters is to leave in the past the moments of life that have finished. Did you lose your job? Has a loving relationship come to an end? Did you leave your parents’ house? Gone to live abroad? Has a long-lasting friendship ended all of a sudden?

You can spend a long time wondering why this has happened. You can tell yourself you won’t take another step until you find out why certain things that were so important and so solid in your life have turned into dust, just like that.

But such an attitude will be awfully stressing for everyone involved: your parents, your husband or wife, your friends, your children, your sister, everyone will be finishing chapters, turning over new leaves, getting on with life, and they will all feel bad seeing you at a standstill.

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None of us can be in the present and the past at the same time, not even when we try to understand the things that happen to us. What has passed will not return: we cannot for ever be children, late adolescents, sons that feel guilt or rancor towards our parents, lovers who day and night relive an affair with someone who has gone away and has not the least intention of coming back.

Things pass, and the best we can do is to let them really go away. That is why it is so important (however painful it maybe!) to destroy souvenirs, move, give lots of things away to orphanages, sell or donate the books you have at home. Everything in this visible world is a manifestation of the invisible world, of what is going on in our hearts and getting rid of certain memories also means making some room for other memories to take their place.

Let things go. Release them. Detach yourself from them. Nobody plays this life with marked cards, so sometimes we win and sometimes we lose. Do not expect anything in return, do not expect your efforts to be appreciated, your genius to be discovered, your love to be understood. Stop turning on your emotional television to watch the same program over and over again, the one that shows how much you suffered from a certain loss: that is only poisoning you, nothing else.

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Nothing is more dangerous than not accepting love relationships that are broken off, work that is promised but there is no starting date, decisions that are always put off waiting for the ideal moment. Before a new chapter is begun, the old one has to be finished: tell yourself that what has passed will never come back. Remember that there was a time when you could live without that thing or that person. Nothing is irreplaceable. A habit is not a need. This may sound so obvious, it may even be difficult, but it is very important.

Closing cycles. Not because of pride, incapacity or arrogance, but simply because. . .

that no longer fits your life.

Shut the door, change the record, clean the house, shake off the dust. 

Stop being who you were, and change into who you are. 

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PUTTING an END. Letting go. Moving on. They all mean the same thing, Closing cycles. The cycle of life is indeed unfathomable. That is how I always describe it even when I was still young. Howbeit we want to let go, move on, close doors, or end the cycle we just cannot because sometimes you cannot walk away because something or someone NO longer fits your life. . . especially when it involves SIGNIFICANT OTHER/S. It’s not right to just walk away. It’s not right to LIVE only your life, yeah! We all have our own lives to take business into but still there are those who stay by our side. . .our family, our friends or special one . . .and we continue to put our lives on hold for them.

As far as I see it we cannot begin a new chapter in our lives if we don’t accept that we need to close a previous cycle in our existence , especially when it made an impact in your life. It is like living knowing you are going to die, or loving knowing you are going to get hurt, or  simply like mourning to give up the past.  I believe we all have the right to blast our emotions when something or someone is gone. Shredding some tears can often make us feel better and  it helps us put things in perspective. This  has been our simplest way out, our escape route.

God has left this door open for us to step through and start moving forward. Yes! It is hard! Our memories are a part of us. They are locked deep inside us and constitute what we are today. So the choice is to live in crazy, raw reality or live in a mirage of peaceful life. If I am to choose, I love  to live in reality no matter what the cost is. And a part of living in reality is to certainly close unnecessary cycles, because when you do, you undeniably  are living free.

Let go of the feelings, persons, places, and experiences which can never be yours and free yourself from all the unnecessary chains that may bind you from what had happened, what is happening, and what will happen.

(c) Reloufe Balucan

So for a piece of advice: Oh, come on! wake up from your lucid dreams, loosen yourself, and for once break the rules, and mess the intricate pattern of  your life.

After all, “Happiness is not something ready made. It comes from your own actions.” 

BE CRAZY YET CHOOSE YOUR ACTIONS SO WELL!  ^^