The Fading Light

 (A Random Thought in Desolate Oblivion) 

As individuals, regardless of what our professions are , we emit light so others may see their paths and may shine through us. Sometimes we are way too unconscious to notice this, but more often we truly are. Sometimes we are not so blissful about it, but more often we feel felicitous in doing so. Sometimes we put limitation in sharing our light, but more often we consume ourselves so that others may succeed.

But what if we, being the candle to the people around us, stop giving off our light? What if we try to shut ourselves off so we can live a little bit longer? By then, will we become a part of the Selfish Faction? Or even worse to the insensitive one?

In cases wherein the candle's light is being valued by the ones around, it shines even brighter. However, when it becomes neglected and unappreciated, its light slowly fades out.

Photo from http://www.medievalists.net/2015/01/candlelight-offers-little-light/

These are then the instances  it wants to be placed in a nook and just stay unnoticed and not being ignited. It's the crucial part wherein its fire thinks to give more life of the candle itself.  But will this then give glee to the candle?

Like any other candle, it is given much honor and value when the ones around benefit from it, when the ones around see its fire. The candles are just way too generous of their light. And when  they think of not being kindled, their thoughts go like:

"Can they still see?"

"Will they be guided?"

"What if they've chosen the road not taken?"

And the most inconsolable one:

"What if THEY stumble and fail because of my absence?" 

Sometimes the world gives a candle an all-at-the-same-lighting-or-nothing-at-all kind of chances which make itself feels like shutting off forever, because sometimes, life just sucks. IT SUCKS. And just like this sequitur, it sucks!

  

The Girl You Must Date :)

"To the girl who reads by flashlight, who sees dragons in the clouds, who feels most alive in the worlds that never were, who knows magic is real, to that girl who dreams. . .

this is for YOU." (Photo from web)

Just lately, while I was busy trying to search , by all means how to bring back to  life my site , I've randomly opened a wonderful article I found so relatable. Hence,  I thought of publishing it and "why not" it's worth sharing though by the way and so here it goes:

Date a girl who reads. Date a girl who spends her money on books instead of clothes. She has problems with closet space because she has too many books. Date a girl who ha a list of books she wants to read, who has had a library card when she was still twelve. 

Find a girl who reads. You'll know what she does because she will always have an unread book in her bag.  She's the one lovingly looking over the shelves in the bookstore, the one who quietly cries out when she finds out the book she wants. You see the weird chick sniffing the pages from an old book in a second hand book shop? That's the reader. They can never resist smelling the pages, especially when they are yellow. 

She's the girl reading while waiting in that coffee shop down the street. The non-dairy creamer is floating on top because she's kind of engrossed already. Lost in the world of the author's making.  Sit down.  She might give you a glare, as most girls who read do not like to be interrupted.  Ask her if she like the book. 

Buy her another cup of coffee. 

Let her know that you really think of Murakami.  See if she got through the first chapter of the fellowship. Understand that if she says she understood James Joyce's Ulysses, she's just saying that to sound intelligent. Ask her if she loves Alice or if she would like to be Alice. 

It's easy to date a girl who reads. Give her books for her birthday. for Christmas, and for anniversaries. 

Give her the gifts of words, in poetry, in song. Give her Neruda, Pound, Sexton, Cumming. Let her know that you understand that words are love.  Understand that she knows the difference between books and reality but by God, she's going to try to make her life a little like her favorite book. It will never be your fault if she does. 

She got to give it a shot somehow. 

Lie to her. If she understands syntax, she will understand your need to lie. Behind words are other things: motivation, value, nuance, dialogue. It will not be the end of the world. 

Fail her. Because a girl who reads knows that failures always leads up to climax. Because girls who can understand that all things will come to an end. That you can always write a sequel. That you can begin again and again and still be the hero. That life is meant to have a villain or two. 

Why be frightened of everything that you are not? Girls who read understand that people, like characters, develop. Except in the Twilight Series. 

If you find a girl who reads, keep her close. When you find her up at 2 a.m. clutching a book to her chest and weeping, make her a cup of tea and hold her.  You may lose her for a couple of hours but she will always come back to you. She'll talk as if the characters in the book are real, because for awhile, they always are. 

You will propose on a hot air balloon. or during a rock concert.Or very casually, next time she's sick. Over Skype.

You will smile so hard you will wonder why your heart hasn't burst or bled out all over your chest yet. You will write the story of your lives, have kids with strange names and even stranger tastes. She will introduce your children to the Cat in the Hat and Aslan, maybe on the same day. You will walk the winters of your old age together and she will recite Keats under her breath while you shake the snow off your boots. 

Date a girl who reads because you deserve it. You deserve a girl who can give you the most colorful life imaginable. If you can only give her monotony, and stale hours and half-baked proposals, then you'd better off alone. If you want the world and the worlds beyond it, date a girl who reads. 

Or better yet, date w girl who writes." 

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And to share to you a little something special, my ex boyfriend just married her girlfriend who reads. A. LOT. :)