Reflections Of A Man by Mr. Amari Soul

Bookish Mardi : A Book Review of
Reflections Of A Man by Mr. Amari Soul


"A woman's true love for a man is foolproof; she'll be with her man, side-by-side through anything and everything." - Mr. Amari Soul

Book   :        Reflections Of A Man

Author :      Mr. Amari Soul

Publisher:    Black Castle Media Group

Publication Date:  February 16, 2015

Pages:          278

Format:       Trademark Paperback

Source:        Given as a Valentine's Gift

Book Description:

Reflections Of  A Man  is a book designed for both men and women to enhance the quality of their relationships. For the women , it encourages you to recognize the true value of you love , to reevaluate your standards and to make the decision that you will no longer settle for anything less that someone who loves you , respects you , and truly makes you happy .  For the men , this book will , not only encourage you to learn more about the emotional needs of a woman ,  but it will provide you with clear insight into what a woman truly needs from you , emotionally, to be happy. Through beautiful words of poetry, powerful quotes and advice full of wisdom , Mr. Amari Soul creates a truly enlightening experience  for both men and women with Reflections Of A Man . On  one hand, women gain a new perspective on the true value of their love , raise their standards and refuse to settle .  On the other hand , men become better equipped to , not only understand a woman's emotional needs, but they are better able to meet or exceed their new standard as well. 

Cee's Musings and Reflections 

Whose attention wouldn't be caught with these? 

Caution: BEWARE they'll be hitting your heart.

Disclaimer: The first six photos I used are not my own and I do not claim them to be my own. To find the original source you can click "this". Thank you. :)

 

I told you, they all have that one thing in common. They pierce holes in your heart with all that  painful honesty. So while I  encountered these and more lines from Mr. Soul, I showed to my bf one of those posts and told him, "Awa ni paw ohh, nice kau mga lines niya. Nindot gyud siguro ni nga book buh. Gnahan kau ko magbasa sa iyang quotes jud." (Look at this Paw, his lines are just so profound. Surely, his book is great, as  well . I really love reading his quotes.")

As always he has this ability to just observe things and sometimes as if not minding things I say but he remembered every single details of them. 

The days continued as its usual way while I continued scanning Mr. Amari's fb page devouring the beautiful and poignant quotes in there. I marveled to each one of them. 

The second time, I showed Pawix a picture-quote of Mr. Soul, despite of my jovial expression, he just lifelessly muttered, "Okay, nice one." And so disappointed all I was. Until he went back to Manila to process his papers for work, he kept dropping hints that he is in a hunt for something. 

. . .until later on, after visiting quite a number of stores,  he started revealing what he was hunting down.

. . . to finally saying that search! All I had in my mind was that he was looking for the book "What the Dog Saw"  by Malcolm Gladwell for I was in search of it in NBS here only to find out there's none. Mr. Amari Soul's book was totally washed out in my mind when he was dropping his hints. hahahah 

. . . and to finally, taadaaaahhh! He got the book for me!!! :D

. . .  these then became his bouquet of roses last Valentine's Day. :)

So much about this history, the moment I started reading the book of Mr. Soul page by page, the more I get to love him, his book, and  his perspectives about relationships. It then became a very important part of my day. Like when I read a line or a part or even the entire chapter and it hits me that hard, it makes me look up my ceiling and ponder all those things he wrote agreeably.

To be honest, I read the book, only a couple of pages to 5  in a day, because I wanted to devour all the words he put up in making great sentences, digest EVEEEERYTHING he has written, and to fully grasp the points he is making. In short I never wanted to end the book that fast which had me almost 3 weeks to finish it. And I was so saddened when I reached the last page. It meant I have to end my contemplative days with him . Well , I guess that is how it always is when a good book comes to an end, right???

Although at first what to be read are of negativity, the middle and the latter will surely blow your minds away. And if I am to rate it in a scale of 10, I'm giving it a perfect 11. That's how nice this book is, and just by that you could get to picture out how this book is such a perfection to me. 

Hat's off to you Mr. Amari Soul! Thank you endlessly for  sharing your wonderful mind and how extraordinary are your ways of looking relationships by writing this book. May you continue writing more and may you inspire others the most! Thank you!

Remarkable Lines from the Book

. . . such a perfect acknowledgement

"There is no such thing as a self-made man."

"True love remains consistent regardless of the situation or the environment." 

"Sometimes, the best way to get an honest answer is not to ask the question directly but indirectly."

"Trust your intuition; it will lead you to what you need to hear and not necessarily what you want to hear."

"A man who can't look at you in the eye, either isn't interested in how you actually feel about the conversation, has confidence issues, or is hiding something from you." 

"Remember this: a good man can't be kept and the wrong man isn't worth keeping." 

"Any man who tries to break you mentally, is already broken both mentally and emotionally."

"A strong man and a strong woman create a strong union. If one or the other is weak, the relationship suffers."

"Any man can pick you up physically, but it takes an exceptional man to lift you up emotionally and spiritually."

"I don't see anything wrong with you confirming the loyalty and the trustworthiness of the one you entrust your heart."

"Confirmation simply proves or disproves your beliefs, one way or the other."

"It's not always the question that eat you up but more so the idea of not having the answer to the question that wears on you."

"When trust is gone everything else will follow."

". . . cheating on you should not have been one of those options."

"Apologies are for accidents or for when someone does something and ,  at the time , they had no idea it would hurt you."

". . . at the time he cheated, he knew that his actions would hurt you; thereby ruling out the argument that "he didn't know."

"When a man cheats a woman, it's not so much the physical act that hurts her; it's the feeling of her being emotionally betrayed by the one person she loved and trusted to never to do such a thing . . . that's what hurts the most." 

"Some people get a second chance while others don't because some people are willing to change while others don't."

"Every relationship has its good moments and those moments often create great memories."

"There are times when people change and it's up to you as to whether or not you believe their change is enough for you to take them back."

"Your willingness to forgive him shows that you are strong enough to be able to move forward without holding it against him."

"Your decision to give him second chance should be largely based on whether or not you should believe whatever has happened will happen again. 

"He'll only change if he wants to change; my question is, if you don't like the man he is today, why are you with him now?

"You can't change a man, but you can definitely be a big part of the reason he decides to change." 

"It's impossible to hold on to a relationship when the other person has already decided to let it go."

"True love is an exciting experience . . . one that should never cause you to feel emotionally lonely."

"Some of you are more 'in love' with the idea of 'being in love' than you are 'in love' with the person you are with."

"Have you ever felt like your heart had been ripped right out of your chest . . .  like when they walked out the door, they took with them  your very last breath?

"one of the most disappointing things that you , as a woman ,  could ever go through is to fall in love with a man that can't love and respect himself yet."

"The worst feeling you can have is the feeling of being stuck in a physical relationship with someone you have already emotionally separated from."

"A strong woman won't give up on her relationship until she is completely fed up and her leaving is the only option she has left. And even then . . . it's hard for to do."

"A strong woman knows that being strong is not an option for her, it's a necessity."

"The reality is that sometimes, it takes more strength to let go that it does to keep holding on."

"So blessed is the smile of the woman that has been forged by the fire and the many years of lesson learned."

"When you forgive , you don't do it for the other person's sake , you do it for your own sanity and peace of mind."

"Forgetting what they've done would erase the memory and  in the memory is where you fine the lesson. However , forgiving removes the weight of the past from your shoulders and allows you to move forward without them. The past is what it is ; yo can't change it. What you can do is learn from it and use that to make better decisions in the future."

"Sometimes , the only person who can help you is you."

"Ladies , for a moment , stop worrying about what everyone else thinks and do what makes you happy." 

"There's nothing wrong with holding on and there's nothing wrong with letting go. The trick is deciding which one is for you."

"Give yourself a fair chance to find true happiness."

"You just have to say it for  yourself, "I'm not willing to accept anything less than what I deserve! I am smart! I am beautiful! I am a good woman, and I deserve to be happy!" It all starts with you."

"Be the woman you you want to be, not the woman everyone else expect you to be."

"God makes no mistake. If you look at it from that perspective, you will see that you are a perfect t creation of what he intended when he created you. Be proud of who you are. After all, you're bot only a one in a million . . . you're a once in a lifetime."

"You are beautiful just the way you are."

"More often than not, it's the little things that matter the most."

"There are mainly three types of people who would criticize you for having a strong wall around your heart. Those who are too lazy to work for your love , those that have never been through the lesson , and those who have been through it but haven't learned."

"A strong woman in self-defined. She knows that the only definition of her that matters is her own."

"To my Strong , Beautiful Woman: Be strong . . . Be patient. The right man is out there searching relentlessly , through all the nonsense , looking for you. Give him time." 

"When you are extraordinary , ordinary just won't do."

"The most important impression a man can make you is not the first impression but rathre a lasting impression that only comes from consistency over time."

"Good men don't run. So , if  you find yourself having to chase a man , stop . . . that's the wrong man."

"Never let the hurt or the anger of a bad separation fool you into disrespecting yourself."

"Make sure you don't break yourself trying to fix a man that is already broken."

"Never waste your time trying to convince someone else of your worth. If they can't see it , they are not worth the effort."

"The beautiful thing about the ones who truly love us is that they are always able to see our worth , often the ones that remind us pf it. fact , they are it whenever they think we're settling for less than we deserve."

"A healthy relationship should grow with you, not against you."

"A man's love for you means absolutely nothing if it doesn't come with an  uncompromising loyalty to you and your relationship; that should be non-negotiable."

"The right man won't break your heart; he'll protect it." 

."A man doesn't necessarily have to agree with your past , but he should be willing to accept it if he wants to be a part of your future."

"The right man will find himself before he looks for you." 

"If you love her , be strong enough , not only to tell her , but to show her as well , or be strong enough to watch her be loved by someone else." 

"If you don't talk to her ,  for at least an hour each day , you'll have no idea about is going on in her life."

"A woman's silence is one of her most powerful forms of communication; it conveys emotions ,  so intense , that no words could possibly describe how she feels at that moment."

"Talk 'to' her and not 'at' her . . . there's a difference."

"Don't lose her because you allow your ego to become bigger than your heart."

"When she share to you her problems, it's not that she is complaining; she simply trusts you enough to talk to you about them."

"Just because she smiles, doesn't mean she's happy. To understand how she really feels. you have to let her talk and yo have to be willing to listen."

"A good woman is willing to fight long and hard for the man she loves and believes in; but just because she's willing to fight for you, doesn't mean she won't leave you , if you take her loyalty for granted."

". . . if she can't to you , then who?

"It's never easy for a good woman to walk away; especially after she's invesed so much of herself into making it work."

"A strong woman doesn't need a man to take care of her. What she needs is a man secure enough to understand and not to be intimidated by it." 

"She does thing no only for herself , but at time , for you as well."\

"Pay attention to her .  Talk to her . Listen to her . Love her . Respect her . Keep her so close that you leave no room for her to doubt."

"Healthy relationships are based upon building up, not tearing down."

"As long as you love him and he loves you and you both are fully committed  to making it work, nothing or no one can ever come between you."

To sum everything up, I'd like to end this post with my most favorite page of the book. It's found at the very last one ,and to me it conveys so much  more than the literal words mean. Hail to the saying, "Save the best for last." :)

My Favorite Story

"It's not the cover of a book that makes it a keeper . . . it's the story."

If you were a book, I would describe you

as one with the most beautiful  cover.

One that was so sexy and unique

that it stood out from all the others.

now, that may be enough to pick you up

and peruse your pages

because relationships are like an open book,

and the intro is the first of several stages.

But , to be honest , I need more than just a pretty cover

for me to keep you.

I need to fall in love with your story 

and you have to promise to fit me into your sequel.

Thank you for the time you've spent going over this blog post! Keep updated for more reviews. :)

- Cee Brensan